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#yesallwomen - the evil of R&B [May. 17th, 2015|08:13 pm]
Today, this completely random person decided to follow me on tumblr, and in true creeper form this person decided to "dare" me to all kinds of videos and photos to satisfy some kind of fetish. First I politely said no (publicly) and secondly I politely, but point blank asked them to stop it (also publicly). Which leaded them to promptly unfollow me and attempt to snare another victim I'm sure.

When I was telling Bert about it during dinner, he said it was probably one of those guys that would say that "the girls had it coming, and enticed him into unsavoury actions towards them" (I dread to think what would happen if I had complied to those "dares", which I never ever would have, but one does wonder).

To which I replied, and to which Bert agrees, that I remembered something on tumblr which is VERY true
Instead of teaching our girls and women ways to protect themselves from getting raped, we should be teaching boys and men not to rape.

Which Bert countered with: if we started forbidding R&B music videos, society would be a lot better off.
I can't help but agree with him. Well maybe not outright forbid them, but banning them to the 10pm - 6am slot wouldn't be a bad thing.
Nowadays there are videos showing women with little more than Xs over their boobs and butt out on music tv 24/7, accompanied with lyrics that aren't exactly beacons of respect for women. It's not giving kids and teenagers the right idea.

Don't get me wrong, I'm absolutely fine with women wanting to dress like that, provided it is honestly 100% THEIR choice and theirs alone. Everyone should be entitled to wear what they want, without getting verbal and/or sexual harassment.
BUT: the fact of the matter is, because this is so in your face out there and enforced by other media also because it's seen as "hip", a lot of girls dress that way because they are feeling the image is forced on them, that they have to act a certain way and accept a certain respectless treatment because that's "just the way it is".
And likewise boys are forced in a kind of stereotype also, which is equally not ok.

So yes, I agree with my husband, things would be better off we started getting rid of full out disrespectful music videos, or putting them in a timesloth where they are less able to have the kind of impact they are having right now.
(Of course they are not the only issue in the media, but we gotta start somewhere, might as well be there, the rest will follow anyway).

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[User Picture]From: kittensandsteam
2015-05-18 04:29 pm (UTC)
yes exactly!
when I was a teenager you could only see stuff like that after 10pm (10pm - 6am), now you see girls dancing provocatively in literally only strings with Xs taped over their nipples and butt cheeks at all times.

And not just that, there's plenty of that going around XD
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