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Something that's been on my mind for a while... [Mar. 25th, 2015|11:40 am]
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First let me state by saying that illness, whether it's physical, mental or just a temporary lurgy should be taken into account. If someone has health issues, then they have health issues.
Generally this isn't their fault and it's not something they can help.

BUT...
and here comes the but...

I've come to realise that popularity is a big part of how people treat others with issues, especially mental issues.
A popular girl just has to complain regularly that she's not feeling well, that she's feeling fragile, often bordering on (sometimes sadly overreacted) hysterics just to get all the attention, to get people jump to attention, overload them with hugs and what not.
Sure, if someone is feeling fragile or sensitive that should be taken into account, BUT (and again with the but).

Whereas some, less popular or unpopular people, that have health issues, and that are asking not even for sympathy but for simple understanding that some things just aren't possible due to their health, heck that doing those things would point blank endanger them, are written off as attention seekers and chronic overreactors.

I've also noticed that the more you are throwing it out for all to see that you are ill/feeling depressed/feeling bad in general, the more people seem to think that considering someone talks about it all the time, it must all be true.
So people that are generally not mentioning it as much are deigned as attention seeking liars, because surely, if someone was wrong with them they'd talk about it ALL THE TIME RIGHT.
WRONG, some of us just don't want to constantly talk about it, some of us try to live a normal life, some of us feel like constantly talking about it makes us attention seeking shits, some of us simply don't want to bother our friends with our issues that no one can solve anyway, or for whatever other reason, some people just don't talk about their illness non stop.

And because they don't, often paired with lack of popularity, they aren't taken serious when they do point out that they can't do something because of it.
Whilst at the same time everyone is falling over themselves to accomodate someone that is constantly complaining left, right and center.

And it pisses me off to NO END.
Seriously, it infuriates me.

It is NOT ok to determine the gravity of someone's illness, be it mental or physical, by how much you like said person.

It is NOT ok to scoff at people when they say something is impossible for them because of their illness.

It is NOT ok prioritise your own problems over others, or rank someone else's problems higher simply because you like that person better.
I can imagine that some days you just can't take anyone else's issues on top of your own (a perfectly human reaction), but it is NEVER ok to say "oh I can't do that and that because of this illness" and then expect that others endanger themselves. Because obviously only your illness is valid, everyone else is a crybaby that is making things up for attention XD

If someone has health issues, ask what you can do to make sure you don't accidently make their life more miserable.
Do NOT assume they are a fable, a way to get attention or what ever.
Do NOT ignore it when they say "I am unable to do this due to this illness", they are saying this with reason, no matter how ridiculous the thing they can't do may seem.
Yes there sadly are sick, sad individuals that are overreacting their condition for attention seeking purposes, but no matter how annoying those are, don't assume that everyone is like that because of those fucktards.
I hate people like that, because they make it a million times harder for people that are ill and that are struggling to get society to accept that fact.

Remember people: not every disability or illness is visible, but that doesn't mean it's not there.
And if someone explains to you that they are having trouble, even if you can't see it, don't just assume it's not true and they're just trying to get attention. In most cases people are just trying to make sure they are safe and not endangering themselves.
Respect that, it's often of vital (literally) importance that you do.
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[User Picture]From: valerius1979
2015-03-25 05:12 pm (UTC)
Yes, so much this! Hope you can get people to understand!
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[User Picture]From: kittensandsteam
2015-03-25 05:52 pm (UTC)
I really hope that people will think twice when they read things like this, for the benefit of everyone coping with an illness or disability.
But knowing the through process (or lack thereoff) of the average human being, I don't think it's likely :(
Still, better to try than to seethe in silence :)
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